Ask a Bombshell With Zeena Koda
At about what age do women stop digging the asshole, and start looking for a nice guy? — Tyler
The Bombshell says…
A bigger question from the female end is: at what age do men stop being overgrown boys, wanting to stick their member in every shiny vagina that walks by? I think there are “assholes” in both genders and even if you lock someone down, there is the potential that over time, their heart — and most likely, body — will stray. I truly feel for nice guys because they do get the shit end of the stick most of the time. The problem is that cardinal rule of attraction, which worships longing and mystery, and when someone is aloof or gives you a little to worry about by being a douchebag or acting irrationally, as women, we wonder — “Why doesn’t he want ME?”
It’s an unfortunate but true thing. On the flip side though, I know plenty of ladies who fall for the “nice guy,” wife it up and eventually get stone-bored with their existence. Morality and action are funny things; there’s truly no specific time in life where it can go either way — it’s all based on the individual. As I get deeper into dating, I really have come to the realization that age is nothing but a number MOST of the time — I’ve found some young people to be much more mature than older bros I’ve dealt with. There is really someone for everyone and no one is a “nice guy” 100% of the time. The best thing you can do is be true to yourself and never let someone else take you for granted because then you only have yourself to blame.
“I have a friend who’s got the herpes and has unprotected sex. I don’t tell her how to live my life because it’s none of my business; she just doesn’t want men to spread rumors about her. A guy friend of mine is really interested in dating her and I’m not sure what to do. How can I stop her from spreading this shit without ruining our friendship? — Lauren”
The Bombshell says…
Well, might want to hold the Valtrex cocktail there! This is a tough one because you don’t want to cockblock your girl but you also don’t want to put your friend in danger of contracting an STD when you hold the knowledge. I would say YOUR best bet in this situation is to initially stay out of it but let your girlfriend know how you morally feel about the situation — truly, it is her responsibility to disclose that information and just because someone has an STD doesn’t make them dead to the world.
It will be up to your guy friend to make that decision when the time comes but you need to openly express that anxiety to her and let her know that it does not make you feel comfortable. Sometimes people have a crappy way of putting others in weird situations without even realizing how far the repercussions could extend and you cannot stress yourself trying to play detective between the two of them. Maybe give your guy friend an indirect heads up about it by saying something like “She gets around.” Probably a little awkward but given the situation, you can’t be coy. If he wants to hit it that bad, he’ll just have to carry on and take the chance.
“All bullshit aside what’s a good new release I should buy? – Jessica”
The Bombshell says…
Kvelertak, self titled. Without a doubt, one of the most exciting releases in metal I have heard in the last two years and after seeing them live at SXSW for a rare U.S. performance, I was sold. Solid mix of death rock, black metal, hardcore and everything but the kitchen sink, these super nice dudes reel you in with ambitious live performances and catchy riffs and choruses. Yes, I’m not too sure what they are saying but god dammit, I like how they say it. SOLID release, cannot wait to see these guys return to the U.S. for a full tour soon.